[Benjamin]

Prompted by the recent convo in The Hot Guy thread.

Is it acceptable to find other people attractive/pretty/handsome etc if you’re in a relationship? (I’m talking purely looking/commenting about another person).

[Cherie]

wanders over to the hot guy thread...

yeah its fine, you cant avoid looking at people would be a bit controlling for a partner to get jealous over it I think anyway

[Jessica.]

I don't find strangers attractive but I don't care if my partner does, it's me he comes home to and spends all his time with.

[caprimint]

Yeah I think it's fine to recognise the fact that somebody is good looking, but there's a difference between that and finding them attractive or being attracted to them imo

[Benjamin]

Originally Posted by caprimint

Yeah I think it's fine to recognise the fact that somebody is good looking, but there's a difference between that and finding them attractive or being attracted to them imo

Being attracted is different, I agree. I’m purely meaning looking and seeing people as attractive (like in the hot guy/girl threads).

[caprimint]

Originally Posted by Benjamin

Being attracted is different, I agree. I’m purely meaning looking and seeing people as attractive (like in the hot guy/girl threads).

I just went and read the thread Yeah nothing wrong with that at all

[GoldGlitter]

Do you find Pedro sexually attractive?

[Benjamin]

Originally Posted by GoldGlitter

Do you find Pedro sexually attractive?

I think he is a very good looking guy. Would I sleep with him, no, because I’m in a relationship.

[Ammi]

…there is no ‘fixed rule’ about such things, it’s the people in that relationship that fix those rules and boundaries as it were…if a partner were to feel and say for instance…I can’t have you even find another human being physically attractive and if you do, we’re through because that’s not something that I can cope with…it’s up to the other person in the partnership to say, hmmmmm ok then…but that for many would be a red flag situation…appreciating a physical loveliness is only that, nothing more and nothing less…it’s just appreciating physical features in a way that we appreciate character features in someone…

[AnnieK]

Absolutely.....appreciating someone for their looks is fine. Acting on it is different.

[GoldGlitter]

Originally Posted by Benjamin

I think he is a very good looking guy. Would I sleep with him, no, because I’m in a relationship.

If you were alone with him and had the opportunity you would. Just be honest.

[Benjamin]

Originally Posted by GoldGlitter

If you were alone with him and had the opportunity you would. Just be honest.

No because I’m not that disrespectful. I’m not sure why you seem to think I would based on me purely posting a picture of Pedro Pascal. At no point did I say I wish I could sleep with him.

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by GoldGlitter

If you were alone with him and had the opportunity you would. Just be honest.

Why are you so obsessed with Ben thinking a celebrity is good looking?

Of course people in relationships can tell if people are good looking or not fgs

[Kate!]

I agree with the majority in the poll and comments.

[GoldGlitter]

Originally Posted by Benjamin

I think he is a very good looking guy. Would I sleep with him, no, because I’m in a relationship.

Would you sleep with him if you wasn't in a relationship.

[Gusto Brunt]

If you're looking at other people, then you're in the wrong relationship.

[Benjamin]

Originally Posted by GoldGlitter

Would you sleep with him if you wasn't in a relationship.

Maybe, but I don’t just sleep around.

But that’s besides the point. I’m in a secure relationship and we’re both secure with ourselves and each other to say if we find other people good looking. I’m sorry if you haven’t found that. I’m also unsure why you are singling me out.

[GoldGlitter]

Originally Posted by Benjamin

Maybe, but I don’t just sleep around.

But that’s besides the point. I’m in a secure relationship and we’re both secure with ourselves and each other to say if we find other people good looking. I’m sorry if you haven’t found that. I’m also unsure why you are singling me out.

I've tried being nice with you Ben by saying good morning and things. You've totally blanked me. The only time you respond is when I'm being argumentative.

[thesheriff443]

Many ways to look at this
You can have an instant attraction you can have an instant mutual attraction

I can tell instantly if someone finds me attractive and that’s no being big headed that’s being really dialled in

I’m in a relationship with an attractive woman who get blokes trying their luck
I think the most disrespectful thing is trying it on if you are out together

[Benjamin]

Originally Posted by thesheriff443

Many ways to look at this
You can have an instant attraction you can have an instant mutual attraction

I can tell instantly if someone finds me attractive and that’s no being big headed that’s being really dialled in

I’m in a relationship with an attractive woman who get blokes trying their luck
I think the most disrespectful thing is trying it on if you are out together

Yeah that is disrespectful.

[Benjamin]

Originally Posted by GoldGlitter

I've tried being nice with you Ben by saying good morning and things. You've totally blanked me. The only time you respond is when I'm being argumentative.

Not sure what this has to do with the topic. But yes, I won’t reply on PM when you originally PM me messages I deem as inappropriate.

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by Benjamin

Not sure what this has to do with the topic. But yes, I won’t reply on PM when you originally PM me messages I deem as inappropriate.

[GoldGlitter]

Originally Posted by Benjamin

Not sure what this has to do with the topic. But yes, I won’t reply on PM when you originally PM me messages I deem as inappropriate.

I said goodmorning ☕ Asked how did you meet bf? And have you been wild camping. How is that inappropriate.

[Benjamin]

Originally Posted by GoldGlitter

I said goodmorning ☕ Asked how did you meet bf? And have you been wild camping. How is that inappropriate.

I’m not going to post what you said, I’m not a douchebag like that . But your first messages to me were not that.

[GoldGlitter]

Originally Posted by Benjamin

I’m not going to post what you said, I’m not a douchebag like that . But your first messages to me were not that.

The first messages I was drunk and didn't know you had a bf.