At what age should men move out of their parents house?

[Dr43%er]

There is a growing trend for men to stay tied to the apron strings for longer these days.

Me I moved out at 18 and bought my first house at 20.

I personally don't see how these 30/40 year old's do it. I mean, I like to wander round my gaff in the buff, come home at what ever hour I like with out fear of disturbing anyone. Bring someone back and ..... er..... make noise.

I could not do that if me mum was in. Do these people have a sex life?

So the question is, At what age should a man have moved out?

[~Kizwiz~]

I suppose unless your parent(s) are ill then it has to be the first too.... the earlier the better really. I'm not a man :dance2: but I moved out when I was 19.

Its all about finding your personality and finding out who you are

[GiRTh]

Nice thread.:laugh:

I bought my house when I was 22, but I do have friend who is forty and lives with his mother. He does have an excuse in that he's only in this country for about 5-6 months of the year.

[Captain.Remy]

I will live my house at 18 in order to live in London next year :spin2:. But without this departure I would leave my home between 20 and 25 y-o.

[Moses455]

I am 28 and moving out this year. Saved money, love my parents and perfectly happy with the decision.

[J.C.]

There are just so many different circumstances and factors involved that it's not easy to say. I feel that 16/17 is definitely too young but would usually accept that it's workable.
18-25 feels about the perfect age to leave home , assuming normal circumstances.
When a man is over 30 , not happy being single and yet still living at home then I would consider that he was too old to be living at home.I went for option B tho I left at 19.

[Wiglet]

Circumstances play their part and my husband went off to college then came home again. He moved out in his late 20's and brought a flat at the same time.

I guess if you have a job then maybe you can afford to pay rent or buy a property but it is not always that easy? I had a presumption before I met my husband that men should move out in their early 20's but does it matter? I do not consider my husband any less mature/more mature/more mummy's boy/less of because he lived at home so long.

I did question him on why he lived at hom for so long and all he said was "circumstances". As I said before, maybe that is all it is sometimes?

[~Kizwiz~]

I think lates 20's is ok...... most people go off to uni and then maybe move back for a while.... BUT..... when you get into early 30's + its getting a little norman bates.

[GiRTh]

Aye. Norman Bates in deed.

I'd like to hear from any forum members who are in their thirties or forties who still live at home. What do you think?

[Nicola]

My brother's nearly 22 and still lives with our mum and dad, last I heard he was looking for a house. I'd been living away from home for a few years when I was his age - finding a bloke was the catalyst for me to do that but I'd been wanting my independence for a while prior to that. I don't think gender played a part, it was just my personal choice, and some girls I know in my age group, like my cousins and my best friend from school, are still living at home and happy to do so.

[ThaGazBoi]

I'm going to wait until I get a decent job with some money and then buy a flat proberly.

I will properly move out when I am about 22 or 23.

[lily.]

It depends on what kind of "man" they are I suppose.

[Meerkat]

Any age, i don't see a problem with a guy still living at home.

[GiRTh]

Originally posted by Meerkat
Any age, i don't see a problem with a guy still living at home. Really. Even a guy in his forties. How old are you? If you dont mind me asking.

[Meerkat]

I'm 34.....why?

[GiRTh]

Just asking. Do you live with your parents?

[Meerkat]

No i moved away when i was 16 but if i could i'd go straight back home................cheaper....:laugh:

[GiRTh]

Me too but I'd feel guilty to put my mother under so much strain. I think that a man in his thirties should give his parents a break.

I'd like to hear from any forum members who actually do live with their parents while being in their thirties.

[nodisharmony]

Originally posted by Meerkat
Any age, i don't see a problem with a guy still living at home.

I agree Meerkat:thumbs:

I know many who still live at home with their parents and many who don't.

Sometimes, a family of 5 will become a family of 3

2 kids grow up and move on and 1 stays with their parents. It is attractive to many and so many different set's of circumstances involved.






nodisharmony :angel:

[Meerkat]

Originally posted by Dr43%er
I like to wander round my gaff in the buff,


Well i hope your curtains are closed when your walking around hanging loose:joker:
A guy living next door to me enjoys that too, but the dirty bugger leaves his curtains open..:yuk:

[GiRTh]

Originally posted by nodisharmony
I agree Meerkat:thumbs:

I know many who still live at home with their parents and many who don't.

Sometimes, a family of 5 will become a family of 3

2 kids grow up and move on and 1 stays with their parents. It is attractive to many and so many different set's of circumstances involved.






nodisharmony :angel: Do you think that a grown adult should try and fend for himself instead of relying on his parents for stability.

[Meerkat]

nodisharmony :angel: [/quote]Do you think that a grown adult should try and fend for himself instead of relying on his parents for stability. [/quote]



Most guys i know are not relying on their parents for stability.
Each to their own i say, i don't have a problem with it all, unless of course they are real mammy pammys who cuddle up to their mams then thats weird...but an ordinary bloke living at home with his parents is fine by me.

[GiRTh]

Originally posted by Meerkat
nodisharmony :angel: Do you think that a grown adult should try and fend for himself instead of relying on his parents for stability. [/quote]



Most guys i know are not relying on their parents for stability.
Each to their own i say, i don't have a problem with it all, unless of course they are real mammy pammys who cuddle up to their mams then thats weird...but an ordinary bloke living at home with his parents is fine by me. [/quote]OK stability was probably not the best word to use. I just dont think that a grown man should rely on his parents for anything and living at home is definitely relying on his parents.

[Meerkat]

Not if he is working and contributing to the household...whats he relying on his parents for?A roof over his head?? some parents are delighted their sons are still at home.

[GiRTh]

I just dont think a grown man should be even relying on his parents for that. It's just my own personal opinion.

[Meerkat]

We all have our own personal opinions on every subject.

It's like asking when is the best time to stop giving my child a dummy tit.........who knows, whatever the child or parent feels comfortable with.

[GiRTh]

Originally posted by Meerkat
We all have our own personal opinions on every subject.

It's like asking when is the best time to stop giving my child a dummy tit.........who knows, whatever the child or parent feels comfortable with. It's not like that at all. We are talking about a grown man not a baby.

[nodisharmony]

Originally posted by Meerkat
nodisharmony :angel: Do you think that a grown adult should try and fend for himself instead of relying on his parents for stability. [/quote]



Most guys i know are not relying on their parents for stability.
Each to their own i say, i don't have a problem with it all, unless of course they are real mammy pammys who cuddle up to their mams then thats weird...but an ordinary bloke living at home with his parents is fine by me. [/quote]

I know a few Meerkat, they love it there and just get used to that type of life. They pay their way and look after their mums & dads, plus, many parents hate to end up without their children being there.

It does happen.






nodisharmony :angel:

[GiRTh]

If they're more of less paying the mortgage then fine but I'm talking about the guys who seem to be relying on their parents.

[MarkWaldorf]

20-25, is when men should leave, IMO.
Although I have plans to leave at 18, but it depends how my education turns out.

[andybigbro]

25 - 30

[cgimusic]

20 - 25

[Dr43%er]

Interesting to see different points of view.
Me, yes I still rely on my mum for mum stuff, but there is no way I would impose on her life with having to bother about me in a day to day sort of way. How do i know that she does not want to walk about in the buff. If I can do it then why not her? If anything I should be looking after her rather than me scrounging off her.

To the people that do still live with their mum. Have you ever lived by your self? Or is that total alien to you? Does she still iron your pants?

[Meerkat]

[/quote]It's not like that at all. We are talking about a grown man not a baby. [/quote]


Aye, we are talking about grown men, but i was giving you an example. Who has the right to say when someone should take a dummy away from a child, who has a right to say what a grown man decides to do with his life.

[Meerkat]

Originally posted by GiRTh
If they're more of less paying the mortgage then fine



So here we have a 45 year old man living with his parents he is more or less paying the mortgage....that's fine is it?

It' acceptable then because of that reason!!

[Bells]

Generally, I'd say 20-25 because by that stage main education is complete, and men have time to find a job and be independent if they need to. Also, if they go to university they leave even before then and by 20 should be more settled.

However, I agree with those saying it's fine for a man to continue living with his parents, but in order to learn some independence it's better if he's not dependent upon them, and has his own job, takes responsibility for everything, etc. The just living with them part is therefore acceptable in many cases.

[Meerkat]

Originally posted by Ash
Generally, I'd say 20-25 because by that stage main education is complete, and men have time to find a job and be independent if they need to. Also, if they go to university they leave even before then and by 20 should be more settled.

However, I agree with those saying it's fine for a man to continue living with his parents, but in order to learn some independence it's better if he's not dependent upon them, and has his own job, takes responsibility for everything, etc. The just living with them part is therefore acceptable in many cases.

That's how many are that i know who live with their parents..there not all scroungers and dependant on their parents..most are very sucessful but choose to remain at home.

[Legend]

If the parents are happy with it then i don't see why there is an age that people should move out - live with your parents all your life if both are happy with it.

Personally, i want to go when i'm 18. However, i'd just like to ''go'' and live away from home but not buy a house or anything like that. At the same time though, i'd like to think there was always a room for me at my parents house.

Each to their own at the end of the day, there is no ''set age'' that people should move out.

[CassetteFinger]

B or C haha E is funny.

[Sunny_01]

I wonder how adult men cope in serious relationships when they still live with their mothers?

How must it make G/F's feel about them, I would hate it if I had to worry about another woman in my relationship, and I really cant see it being any other way. They live with their mums which means the house runs by mum's rules, visitors are exactly that, visitors! you cant slop about your B/f's house in your undies if his mum is hanging about, you cant have a key to your b/f's house, its his mums house!

I just wonder how it works, I know as a mother I have always promoted independence in my kids, I want them to go out into the world and live. I want them to work out how to get by in their own homes. I want to enjoy my life once both my kids have left home. Not saying I dont enjoy being a mother just it will be satisfying for me to watch my children grow into self sufficent adults.

I know many people have said that a lot of men contribute to the home financially, but do they actually physically go out and pay bills, get the shopping etc.. if not would they even be capable of coping in the big bad world on their own or would they be looking for a mother type figure in a partner :rolleyes:

Do we have any men who can dispel the myths that we all think about grown up mummy's boys! can you tell us how it really is? can you let us step into your world for a few minutes?

[Wiglet]

My lovely cousin who I adore has recently been forced to move into his own place because my aunt out of the blue decided to call time on my aunt and uncle's marriage. My aunt wanted her own freedom too and so all three of them are now living their own lives. My cousin is in his early twenties and would actually make a brilliant BB housemate:thumbs:

Now Sunny01 you have said about older men living with their mothers. My husband has a couple of old drinking partners and when I first met him they BOTH lived with their mothers.

One we set up with a friend of mine and they are still together which is nice and the other who is now approx 50-55 still lives with his mother.:conf: He has become his mother's carer and although he occasionally dates he has not found long term love. I have in the past suggested to him that he gets rid of the dark indigo jeans with a crease down the centre and his in patterned jumpers but he now lacks confidence to form that special relationship.

[Mrluvaluva]

Originally posted by Meerkat
nodisharmony :angel: Do you think that a grown adult should try and fend for himself instead of relying on his parents for stability. [/quote]



Most guys i know are not relying on their parents for stability.
Each to their own i say, i don't have a problem with it all, unless of course they are real mammy pammys who cuddle up to their mams then thats weird...but an ordinary bloke living at home with his parents is fine by me. [/quote]


Bitty! lol

[Sunny_01]

Originally posted by Mrluvaluva
Originally posted by Meerkat
nodisharmony :angel: Do you think that a grown adult should try and fend for himself instead of relying on his parents for stability.



Most guys i know are not relying on their parents for stability.
Each to their own i say, i don't have a problem with it all, unless of course they are real mammy pammys who cuddle up to their mams then thats weird...but an ordinary bloke living at home with his parents is fine by me. [/quote]


Bitty! lol [/quote]

lol my kids call me Bitty for a laugh - in fact all their friends call me Bitty

[Sunny_01]

bump

[GiRTh]

Originally posted by Sunny_01

Bitty! lol

lol my kids call me Bitty for a laugh - in fact all their friends call me Bitty [/quote]Why do they do that?:whistle:

[GiRTh]

Originally posted by Meerkat
Originally posted by GiRTh
If they're more of less paying the mortgage then fine



So here we have a 45 year old man living with his parents he is more or less paying the mortgage....that's fine is it?

It' acceptable then because of that reason!! BEcasue his parents have spent heir whole life looking after him and it's about time they had a break.

[Mrluvaluva]

I think it's a bit sad if you are living with your parents after the age of 30. I was about 25 when I left home. And it was great! I also think I have a better relationship now with my dad because of it.