[Ray.]

What are some activities or interests you used to have that you don't anymore because they remind you of someone you've lost along the way.

I don't necessarily mean people who've passed on, either.

Could be friends you had a bad falling out with, an old flame that ended the relationship on a bad note, etc., etc.

[Redway]

Watch snooker. Never been any good at the stuff, never been madly interested in it but because of a bad experience I had surrounding pool in 2021 (not a good year for me), I can’t look at it in the same way.

[Mystic Mock]

I don't think that I have watched a season of MasterChef since my Mom passed away.

She was a big fan of the Show.

[Beso]

I would always do something that reminds of anyone who has passed.

[Kate!]

Originally Posted by Beso

I would always do something that reminds of anyone who has passed.

Yes this. It is comforting. I totally agree.

[Jessica.]

I don't listen to a certain song anymore because it was on the radio during a traumatic moment.

[bots]

i have all sorts of ways of dealing with this type of thing and it's never consistent.

If a rock band member has died that i saw on stage, i never listen to their stuff again, i just can't, because the music never again evokes the emotion that it did originally.

With family that have passed, i make a point of carrying on their traditions, it makes me happy, sad and a whole lot more but i get a lot from it. My family are aware of these traditions so it's quite possible that they will continue for generations to come which is thought provoking in its own right

[Livia]

The Sound of Music was my Grandmother's favourite film, we watched it many times together. Couldn't get through it at Christmas, kept bursting into tears.

[Livia]

Also... I can't wear perfume that reminds me of bad times. Smells are so evocative.

[Ammi]

Originally Posted by bots

i have all sorts of ways of dealing with this type of thing and it's never consistent.

If a rock band member has died that i saw on stage, i never listen to their stuff again, i just can't, because the music never again evokes the emotion that it did originally.

With family that have passed, i make a point of carrying on their traditions, it makes me happy, sad and a whole lot more but i get a lot from it. My family are aware of these traditions so it's quite possible that they will continue for generations to come which is thought provoking in its own right

…this has made me think a lot, actually…because it took me a long, long time before I could listen to David Bowie again…and even now, I don’t listen to his music nearly as much as I used to because of the emotions, as you say…but I think maybe that’s why it does still evoke some sadness, because I don’t listen to it so much…and artistic talent especially that we’ve all loved and enjoyed, leaves such a legacy, doesn’t it…that’s so rare…




…with family that has passed…?…I think that it’s the process of grief and that will take as long as it takes for everyone/…there is no fixed rule with that…but being able to think of that person and their ways and their traditions and the joy they felt and the joy they gave etc…?…is what they leave us because we really do carry them and pass on who they were to others…


…I love the idea of the Mexican Day of the Dead tradition where it’s wonderfully celebrated, the life of those lost loved ones……

[Beso]

Such thoughtful responses here. I can almost smell the tibb of old.


But I do have to say, and I'm sorry ammi. But after the David's dead BB scenario. I cant listen to Bowie without chuckling. x

Love to all xx